Answer the call

markstephenBack in 1991, Mac and I were getting ready to do a show on a flatbed trailer in a church parking lot. This would be our first show as a Christian band. We didn’t have a band name – I think they just called us Mac and Friends or something like that. We didn’t even really know what Christian music was. We were excited about our faith and felt God was calling us to share it through music. So we did.

That summer had been a weird one for me. As I watched high school crossfade into college, the landscape was changing around me. The most important thing in my life had been my garage band, and we had broken up just a few weeks prior. In hindsight the show we were doing that night would mark the beginnings of Third Day, but at the time it didn’t feel that way. Everything was so up in the air. With college starting, would we even be able to keep a band together? It felt like we were kind of floundering.

During a break while setting up the stage, they played some music over the PA. I was a newcomer to Christian music, but I recognized some of the songs being from artists I knew like Russ Taff and Rich Mullins. Then a song came on that I didn’t recognize. It started with a group of voices singing a cappella:

“We will abandon it all / For the sake of the call”

I would later learn that this was a song called “For the Sake of the Call” by a guy named Steven Curtis Chapman. Over the next several months, he would become one of my favorite artists. About a year later, Mac, myself, and our keyboard player Billy saw Steven Curtis on the Great Adventure Tour in Atlanta.

25 years later, literally almost to the day from that flatbed trailer concert, we found ourselves on tour with Steven Curtis Chapman. We were doing a pre show devotion with our tour pastor, Nigel, and were studying the passage where Jesus says to the disciples “Follow me.”

“Does anybody have any other thoughts about this passage?” Nigel asked, getting ready to launch into a prayer for that night’s show.

“This is actually the passage I was reading when I wrote ‘For the Sake of the Call'”, Steven said. He proceeded to give us a little behind the scenes look at the writing of one of his most beloved songs. Inspired by that passage as well as a book he’d been reading, he wrote that song as a reminder of why he does what he does. This song was already one of my favorites, but this little moment we had with Steven gave it an extra layer of meaning for me.

I know this story sounds like I’m saying, “Follow God, and he will give you non stop mountaintop experiences, like touring with Steven Curtis Chapman.” I’m not saying that at all. The life of following after God is a life like no other, as you live out the abundant life Jesus talks about. Sometimes that does involve peak experiences, like sharing the stage with one of your heroes. But oftentimes the act of climbing the mountain leads us directly to a cross.

Joy and suffering often seem to go hand in hand, and sometimes a sure calling is followed by an uncertain road. Maybe that’s why people refer to the Christian life as their “faith”.

Right now we’re in a season not unlike that summer all those years ago. We finished the tour with Steven and a few shows of our own. We’re winding down the recording of our next record. We’ve decided not to book a lot of shows this fall. There’s a feel of “What’s next?”, that brings with it a sense of excitement as well as a little uncertainty.

I recently saw the film Risen. The thing I loved most about the film was how the disciples weren’t spiritual giants – they were regular old dudes who were doubting and second guessing themselves the whole time. They weren’t good at much, but they were great at one thing: following Jesus. The one thing they were sure about was that they needed to follow Jesus wherever he leads. That’s the kind of attitude towards my faith and my life that I want to have.

I was uncertain all those years ago about my circumstances, but I answered the call God was placing on my life. Likewise, my present circumstances might be a little different from the structure I’m used to, but I will do the same thing. I will follow after Jesus and answer his call. He has shown time and time again that he’s got it.

It may not be an easy life, but it’s an abundant one. And it’s the best place you can live out of.

Answer the call.

(P.S. Huge thanks to Bill Barber for the amazing photo with Steven!)


If you never read anything else I ever write, read this

I was hiking in the North Georgia Mountains a few weeks ago. This summer I’ve done several day hikes on the Appalachian Trail. If you have a four wheel drive vehicle and don’t mind driving on some rough forest roads, you can access some seriously remote places.

This day was different. I didn’t have much time, so instead of driving to one of those more remote trailheads, I joined several other cars in the crowded parking lot for the Rocky Mountain loop, one of the more popular hiking spots along the Georgia section of the AT. As I started the hike I found that the trail was steep, but surprisingly not busy at all. I guess it was still kind of early.

After thirty minutes or so of huffing and puffing up the trail, I found myself admiring the beautiful view from the top of Rocky Mountain. Nice enough of a view that I took this picture. I put my phone back in my pocket and turned to continue my journey down the other side of the mountain and complete the loop back to my car.

Just then I heard a rustling sound in the bushes. I really didn’t think anything about it. Earlier I had seen a couple of stray dogs on the trail. Maybe it was them again? Also, the top of Rocky Mountain is a popular camping spot. Maybe it was a camper exploring the summit of the mountain?

It was neither. Instead I was greeted by a black bear, maybe 20-30 yards away. He hadn’t seen me yet, and was walking parallel to the trail.
My pulse quickened. The hairs on the back of my neck stood up. All the usual, panicky (expletive filled) thoughts began to race through my brain. But in the middle of all that was one thought above all others. What are you supposed to do when if you see a bear?

Through years of skimming over the bear safety tips in the front of hiking guidebooks and on signs at trailheads, I remembered this one thing.

Do. Not. Run.

That actually wasn’t a problem. I stood there, kind of frozen. After a couple of seconds I guess the bear figured out I was there, because he stood up on his hind legs. He looked at me for a moment, like he was trying to figure me out. Then he slowly lowered himself to all fours, then ran off into the woods.
I’m not here to talk about bear safety, but suffice it to say that after that little incident, I’ve read quite a bit about what to do when you encounter a black bear. While there are several other things to be aware of, the one piece of advice I remembered was the most important one.

I’ve also pondered something else these last few weeks. Since I mostly write about matters of faith, what would be the one thing I would want people to take away from my writing? If somebody reads anything I’ve ever written, what would I want them to remember when they need it most?
Know God.

Just like I just sort of skimmed past the bear safety advice, everybody just kind of skims through life. We do what we have to do, to the best of our ability, but most if it is done out of habit. We don’t really think about the big questions much, except maybe in a crisis, or maybe when we’re trying to go to sleep.

But there they are. And I am convinced with everything that I am, that the answer to all of those big questions is found in knowing God. I could’ve said “love God” and would have been correct, or “trust God”. Or even “obey God”. Knowing God involves all these things and more. Knowing God involves time spent with God. It is a relationship. And surprisingly, a relationship with God takes care of all of the other things as well.

How do you go about this relationship with God? Simply look for Him. He has made it clear that if you look for him in earnest, you will find him. (Jeremiah 29:13). Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. (James 4:8). God is not some lofty, esoteric entity residing in some unreachable realm. He is a person, and he is knowable.

Yes, there are many, many things I could add, but this is it. The one thing. The utmost. Know God. Make knowing God the most important thing in your life. Your life will be nothing short of amazing, because every day He will find a new way to amaze you.

What I’ve Been Reading and Listening To

  1. Surrender to Love, by David Benner: Some books you want to buzz through and get to the point. Other books you want to sift and savor. Then there’s that rarest of books that you want to read again and again. Benner does a great job of reminding us that at its core, Christianity is about a love relationship.
  2. Wishcraft, by Barbara Sher: I found this one in a box while moving and have used it this summer as I’ve made some plans for the future. I’ve owned Wishcraft for many years but have never read it all the way through until now. If you’ve got anything you’ve wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to, this book could be a big help. Barbara Sher acts as a trusted old friend, guiding you through the process of brainstorming planning, so you can turn your ideas into reality.
  3. James Altucher’s interview with Rich Cohen, author of “The Sun and the Moon and the Rolling Stones”: I’m a big fan of James Altucher. He thinks way outside the box, and his interviews often pave the way for my reading list. Definitely the case with this fascinating interview with writer Rich Cohen.
  4. The Sun and the Moon and the Rolling Stones, by Rich Cohen: See what I mean? After listening to the podcast, I tracked down the book. The Rolling Stones are the topic of the book, and they’re fascinating. But the real star here is Cohen’s writing. Great stuff.
  5. Starting Over: The Making of John Lennon and Yoko Ono’s Double Fantasy, by : Another one I found in a moving box. This behind the scenes look at Lennon’s last recording sessions made for a great read.
  6. John Lennon and Yoko Ono – Double Fantasy: I listened to this while reading the book about it. 35 years later and this album sounds as fresh as ever. This album feels like the beginning of something new. As we all now know, it would mark the end. It is a shame that John Lennon was taken from us. What a talent.
  7. NEEDTOBREATHE – HARDLOVE: We toured with these guys back in 2008, but I was a fan long before. NEEDTOBREATHE is one of those bands that feel like they’ve always been around. I guess that’s what timeless music is supposed to feel like. I’ve listened to this one a couple of times, and it breaks some new ground for the band, while standing tall with anything they’ve ever done.
  8. Leeland – Invisible: Another tour mate of ours from a few years back. These guys are easily one of my favorite worship artists, and this album is a great reminder why.
  9. Reliant K – Air for Free: Get in your car, roll down the windows, and crank the volume on this one. Isn’t life awesome?
  10. Wilco – “If I Ever Was a Child” and “Locator”: Looking forward to a new full Wilco album. In the meantime, we’ve got these two tracks they released a little early. If they’re any indication, this is going to be a great one.

Wired for Community

I was hanging out on the bus the other day with my buddy Warren Barfield. We were having a good old time, talking about everything from movies to music to how in the world do you maintain a Facebook page. A lot of times when musicians hang out, we talk about career stuff. Maybe it’s a musician thing – we have this innate uncertainty about the future. What if people decide to quit buying our records or coming to our shows? Or maybe it’s a human thing – maybe we’re all a little worried about the future.

As the conversation got more specific, one thing absolutely blew my mind. There was this total clarity that Warren and I had when talking about the other person. “Dude you should totally do this! It’s so obvious. Can’t you see it?” But each of us, when looking at our own situation, couldn’t really see it.

That’s the funniest thing about it. When you’re talking about somebody else, it’s so easy to see what they should do. When you’re talking about yourself? Not so much.

It seems that we humans have a built in blind spot, and I think God intended it to be that way. We can’t really see our lives with the objectivity that we need to make good decisions. We have to rely on other people to help up out. Maybe, just maybe, we need each other.

It seems that we’re wired for community. Might as well embrace it.

The easy, obvious way to go about this would be the bull in a china shop approach. Since other people have this built in blind spot, let me help them. I’ll just tell them what they ought to do. This is called meddling, and I don’t think I would recommend it.

But there’s another way to approach it that involves a lot of humility and a lot of what Brene Brown calls “leaning in.” It requires opening up to other people and letting them know that you don’t have it all figured out.

I’ve started asking this simple question lately: “What would you do?” I just come out and ask people what they would do if they were in my situation. It’s a little bit unsettling because it’s so out of the ordinary. Try it sometime. At the very least, it makes for interesting conversation.

What would you do?

Review: Risen

With Easter around the corner, the movie theaters are starting to fill up with faith based films. I have a love hate relationship with this genre. Being a Christian, I love seeing Bible stories on the big screen. But many of them come across as heavy handed, and the quality level is hit or miss. I went into Risen carrying this baggage with me.

I left the film feeling like I’d seen one of my favorite movies in a long time.

The premise of Risen is different than most films about Jesus. It does not tell the story of his life, and only briefly portrays his death. Instead, Risen involves an investigation into what happened immediately after. Pontius Pilate, feeling pressure from the Sandhedrin and fearing a Jewish uprising, hires Clavius, a battle hardened tribune in the Roman army. Clavius is given the task of unearthing whether Jesus’ body was stolen, or if something miraculous had occurred.

For the film’s first 30 minutes or so, it feels like you’re watching CSI: Jesusalem. Clavius looks at recently executed bodies, then begins interviewing anyone connected with Jesus. He is unsettled when he meets a woman who claimed to have heard Jesus’ voice after he had died. He is further perplexed upon questioning Mary Magdalene, a mysterious woman of the street who maintained her faith despite his questioning.

The movie reveals a lighthearted tone when he meets Bartholomew, one of the twelve disciples. In one of my favorite scenes of the film, Bartholomew demonstrates a whimsical, childlike belief in Jesus, even when threatened with his own crucifixion. Stephen Hagan is great in this role, giving it a lighthearted feel, a la The Hobbit. My only complaint is that he didn’t get more screen time.

In perhaps the film’s most powerful scene, Clavius receives a tip as to where the disciples might be gathered. He then goes to a home and sees Jesus himself seated with the his disciples gathered around him. Shaken to the core, he waves off the soldiers under his command and stays to witness Jesus in the flesh.

The rest of the film shows Clavius following the disciples as they go to meet Jesus one more time in Galilee. After helping them narrowly escape their pursuers (the soldiers who had previously been under Claudius’ command), they meet Jesus again, and see him perform miracles before ascending into the sky in a blinding flash of light.

Several things set this film apart from others about Jesus. One was the sense of humor woven throughout. Most Christian films take on a seriousness so heavy that the film can barely support it. Not here – it was very refreshing to break up the serious subject matter with a little laughter. Also, the perspective of the story. Told from the point of view of an outsider, the viewer is able to glimpse into the world of the disciples and understand where they were coming from.

That last point is probably what endeared me the most. The film portrayed the disciples as very real and very human, complete with doubts and fear. Those elements also heightened the joy at seeing Jesus again, and seeing his miracles.

I went into Risen not knowing what to expect. I left the film with a deepened faith and a new understanding of Jesus and his disciples. I want to see it again and take everybody I know with me. Isn’t that the goal of all films? I can’t recommend this one highly enough.

Give it up

“So therefore, none of you can become my disciple if you do not give up all your possessions.” ~ Luke 25:33

That right there might be one of the most challenging sentences Jesus ever said. Especially to us modern readers. We sure do love our stuff, don’t we?

This fact hit home for me last year when we were on vacation in Colorado. It was kind of a cool day, even for early June, so when my daughters wanted me to get in the hot tub with them at the hotel pool, I was all about it. For about 5 seconds.

Then I remembered my iPhone was in my pocket.

For the next several days, I felt completely lost. Literally. Since I was on vacation when it happened, I couldn’t get anywhere without the trusty map on my phone. I couldn’t call anybody. Not only did I not have a phone to make the call, but I didn’t have any phone numbers – they were all stored in my contacts. On my phone.

It’s not just my phone. I could do that to an extent with everything I own. Every little thing in my possession has some kind of baggage attached to it. With each item, I could go through a list of why I can’t live without it. Or at least why I can’t get rid of it.

Then there are things that I don’t use that come with a serving of guilt on the side. I can’t get rid of that shirt because it was a gift. I need to wear it. I haven’t read this book. But I need to. I will. I should. At some point.

All of these things, all of this stuff in my life, come with a price. I don’t mean what I paid for it. I mean that little bit of attention in my brain that I subconsciously give to it, just because I own it. And all of this attention adds up. This is attention that I could be giving to things that matter: to my family, to helping and loving others. You know, the eternal things. The things of God.

This is why Jesus tells us to consider the cost of following him. It costs nothing in that it is the simplest decision we’ll ever make. But at the same time, it costs everything. Every thing, every habit, every goal, every relationship, every possession. All of these things get in the way of following Jesus. And that’s why he wants us to give them up.

To be clear, I don’t necessarily think he wants us to literally get rid of these things. For some of us he might. If you feel called to give some things away please don’t let me stand in the way of that. But for most of us, the giving up happens in the spiritual realm. It involves holding everything we have with a loose grip. We realize that God has given us everything, and we are to use it to his glory.

Ask yourself some tough questions. Do I own my things, or do they own me? Are there some things in my life that I “can’t live without”? I would start there. Put them before God and see what you need to do about it. Perhaps you need to hold them with a looser grip. Or maybe, just maybe, you need to give them away.

Fasting could help in this area. Give up your phone for a day. Park your car for a weekend and ride your bike. Or bum a ride – maybe you could use the company. Little breaks like this give us a chance to recalibrate our priorities so we can always keep God first.

Life’s too short to be worried about things that don’t last. Instead, focus on eternal things. You won’t regret it.

Take a leap with me, version 2.0

Do you remember what you were doing four years ago today?

Four years ago, on Leap Day, I wrote a blog post and issued a little challenge. Make some plans and set some goals that are so big, they might take four years to complete them.

If you did it, I’d love to hear how it went for you.

As for me, I set the goal of completing big literary project. I didn’t use the word “book”, because I wanted to leave myself open to other things that might materialize. If I’d done a blog or ebook, I didn’t want it to be considered a failure because it wasn’t a traditional book.

But it ended up being a book. And ironically, or not, I finished the latest version exactly four years to the day of setting that goal. Now granted, it’s not done – I’m sure there will be another round or two of edits. But it’s pretty crazy how that worked out.

OK, for this Leap Year, I’m going to throw out two ideas. Do one or the other. Or do both if you choose.

1) Set a big goal that might take you four years to accomplish. Get to it. And check back in with me in four years. This is what I did last time.
2) Write a letter to yourself in four years. It could be one where you speculate where you are and what you are up to in your 2020 existence. Or you could choose to write a time capsule of everything going on in your life right now so that your 2020 self can go back and reminisce.
3) Be sure to check back in with me. I’d love to hear how things went for you. (Of course we might all be communicating via telepathy by then, so you might not have to go to my blog. But I’m sure we’ll find each other!)


10 Books Every Christian Should Read

Besides prayer and Bible study, few things help in spiritual growth like a good book. Now there are good books, and there are the classics. This list has been carefully selected. Each should help in a certain area of the Christian life. It contains the books I find myself recommending over and over again. If you haven’t read all of them, I encourage you to check them out. Also, I’d love to hear your thoughts. What books would you recommend?

  1. The One Year Bible – “All scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness.” ~ 2 Timothy 3:16. It almost goes without saying. The most important book that a Christian could ever read is that one overseen by God himself. Broken into manageable daily portions, The One Year Bible is a great way to read through all the Scriptures in a calendar year.
  2. Rick Warren’s Bible Study Methods – “Do not merely listen to the word and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” ~ James 1:22. Even more important than reading the Bible is learning how to apply it to your life. There are many good resources to read about Bible study techniques. Warren’s is probably the most readable and practical.
  3. Mere Christianity, by C.S. Lewis – This book winds up on many a “best of” list, and for good reason. Based on a series of radio talks, Lewis is able to unpack the inner workings of the Christian faith in a down to earth.
  4. Celebration of Discipline, by Richard Foster – While we can’t earn God’s love by our own works, we can place ourselves in a position where he can do his work in us. Foster presents several basic tools for living out the faith in both personal and corporate settings.
  5. The God You Can Know, by Dan DeHaan – Many books have been written about the attributes of God. Dan DeHaan had a heart for God like few others, and this book will make you want to love God like that.
  6. Roaring Lambs, by Bob Briner. One of the greatest commandments of the Christian faith is to share it with others. Briner makes a great case for shining a light of faith into the culture at large.
  7. Ragamuffin Gospel, by Brennan Manning – At its heart, Christianity is all about grace. We say all the time that God loves us just the way we are. But do we really mean it? One can’t read this book and not come away with a sense of the incredible depth of God’s grace, mercy, and love for His people.
  8. My Utmost for His Highest, by Oswald Chambers – Many great devotional books have been written through the years. Simple yet layered, this one has stood the test of time. You will discover a new gem every time you read it.
  9. Practicing His Presence, by Frank Laubach and Brother Lawrence – We are commanded to pray without ceasing, but what does that look like in everyday life? 15th century monk Brother Lawrence offered some radical ideas. Frank Laubach updated them for a modern audience while offering a few ideas of his own.
  10. Walking on Water, by Madeleine L’Engle – One of the most beautiful things about being a Christian is realizing that not only are we created by God, but that he has invited us to create with him. Through her lyrical storytelling style, L’Engle offers a glimpse into what that kind of life might look like.

Who’s your favorite Star Wars character? The answer could reveal something about you.

“Mommy, who’s your favorite Star Wars character?”


Kitty and I had just finished seeing The Force Awakens in the theaters. Now we were meeting up with Mommy for dinner. This was Kitty’s second screening of the film. To say it’s her favorite movie would be a massive understatement. She’s pretty well obsessed with all things Star Wars.

“OK, who’s your second favorite Star Wars character?”

“Han Solo,” Stephanie answered with a smile. “I know you’re just trying to get me to say ‘Luke Skywalker’ so you can talk about him.”

Determined as ever, Kitty turned her attention to me. “Daddy, who’s your favorite Star Wars character?”

She doesn’t realize it, but Kitty is on to something. One of my favorite authors, John Eldredge, has an interesting exercise that’s based on this kind of conversation. Eldredge has talked at length about why we gravitate to certain characters over others:

“Quite often you’ll find that you identify with a certain character in a movie you love. The reason why is that their life is speaking to you about something written deep on your heart about your life!” ~ John and Stasi Eldredge, Captivating: A guided journal: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul

It’s a great exercise, and a great conversation starter, to talk about our favorite characters in a film. It’s easier when a new film comes out, especially one that most of us has seen like The Force Awakens. There’s a natural starting point.

Beyond the film’s ubiquitous nature, The Force Awakens is brimming with interesting characters and intriguing story lines. Poe is an amazing fighter pilot with a sarcastic wit to boot. Rey is is conflicted between the adventurous path she’s on and the need to stay home and wait on her family to return. Even old favorites like Han and Leia are given new character arcs.

Even with all these new characters to choose from, Kitty is still drawn to Luke Skywalker. And for good reason. Luke represents the unproven hero of a story thrust onto a big stage; our desire for the underdog to win; and the struggle for good to win over evil, even when those two forces are fighting within one’s own heart.

As for me, while Rey is my favorite character, I can relate to Finn the most. Finn starts out the movie as a stomtrooper, then suffers an identity crisis as he flees the dark side but isn’t ready to stand up and fight against it. I think for me it points out both worthy traits and potential weaknesses. Like Finn, I desire to fight injustice in the world. On the other hand, I have a strong desire to please others and not rock the boat, which sometimes shows up as wanting to avoid conflict.

Examine the characters in the film and search your own heart, and you can learn some things about yourself. Hey, if nothing else, it could give you an excuse to see the movie again.

Now you. What character in The Force Awakens do you relate to the most? Why?

What to do on the day after you didn’t win the lottery

To the three of you who won the lottery last night, congratulations! (If you happen to be a faithful reader of this blog, drop me a line. Maybe you can become a patron of the arts by a generous contribution.)

I’m being facetious, of course. For the rest of us, which is pretty much anybody reading this, you didn’t win the lottery. But it was exciting to dream for a little bit, wasn’t it? It’s fun to sit and think about what you’d do with $1.5 billion dollars.

My family had an interesting conversation about it, and I bet we weren’t the only ones. It seems that any talk of spending lottery winnings comes down to a few common themes:

  • Generosity – When most people talk about windfall income, the first thing they talk about is how to share it with others. They want to provide for family members. They want to support their favorite causes. And they want to take care of those who can’t take care of themselves. I think this shows that most people are generous at heart.
  • Adventure – We all want to live lives that are exceptional. And it seems that a cool billion will go a long way in that direction. Trips, vacation homes, and crazy experiences seem to be high on the list.
  • Luxury – We all want nice things. Fancy clothes, nice houses, exotic cars, maybe even a boat.
  • Relaxation – We want a break from the cares of the world. Let other people take care of the hard things so we can just chill by the pool.
  • Simplicity – We assume that life would be so much easier with a boatload of money. No more debt, no more bills to pay. Life sure would be simpler without the hassle of a job.

One of my all-time favorite movie scenes is in Office Space*, where the main characters discuss what they’d do if they won a million dollars. After some hilarious banter, they realize that what they’d do with a million dollars is an indicator of what you want to do with your life. If you remove money from the equation, your true desires are likely to come to the surface.

By thinking about your imaginary lottery winnings, perhaps you could figure out ways to incorporate those themes above into your life. If you’re creative about it, you could make it happen with little or no income.

  • You could be more generous. You may not have a lot of money, but you could donate your time or your talents. Help your friends and family in other ways. Volunteer. Teach others some of the skills you have.
  • You could be more adventurous. You may not be able to go to some faraway island, but you could go to the beach. Or a museum. Or try a restaurant in another part of town.
  • Yes, you really could be more luxurious. And yes, this can be done without any money. Julia Cameron has talked about how eating raspberries feels like a luxury.
  • Be more relaxed. It’s more of an attitude than anything else. Don’t let the little things drag you down. Take a few deep breaths. Make walking a part of your daily routine.
  • Finally, to quote Thoreau, you can simplify, simplify, simplify your life. This is an area that you can easily do without any lottery winnings. And besides, I’m pretty sure $1.5 billion would have complicated things more than we’d all care to admit.
  • Bottom line: spend a little time pondering on why you were fascinated by a big lottery jackpot, and I bet you can come up with some ways to live an extraordinary life without it.

*While it’s truly funny, this movie is rated ‘R’. Consider yourself warned :)